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Dr. Soum Rakshit: How Women Finally Achieved Orgasm & Pain-Free Sex | #142

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Sexual health isn't just about pleasure—it's about your overall quality of life. Dr. Soum Rakshit & his team are proving that when you combine military-grade precision with medical expertise, you can solve problems that have plagued humans for centuries. Whether you're dealing with pain, dysfunction, or just want to optimize your sexual wellness, this episode reveals solutions you probably didn't know existed. Ready to transform your intimate health? Hit play and discover how technology is finally catching up to your body's needs.


For Women Struggling with:

  • Pelvic floor pain that physical therapy hasn't fully resolved
  • Painful penetration that's affecting your relationship
  • Severe period cramps that disrupt your life monthly
  • Anorgasmia or difficulty reaching climax

For Men Dealing with:

  • Delayed ejaculation or difficulty reaching climax
  • Erectile dysfunction (especially psychological causes)
  • Prostate health concerns or enlarged prostate symptoms
  • Performance anxiety affecting sexual confidence


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Introduction and Episode Overview

Leah

Well, hey there friends, curious if you're not driving, is your phone nearby? Why don't you grab it, look at your screen and go ahead and follow, like, subscribe because we're headed into a really fun episode. And uh, hey, good morning, good afternoon, good evening. This is Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown. We're the host of the Sex Reimagined podcast.

Meet Dr. Soum Rakshit: From Military Defense to Sexual Health

Willow

And we're exploring today how military grade technology is a revolutionizing sexual health with Dr. Soum Rakshit, who is the co-founder and CEO of mystery vibe. This is a medical grade, uh, sex toy company. He's been working with doctors around the world to create these devices that help people come back to sexual health and wholeness in ways they never imagined. This man used to be, um, a biomedical engineer and did all this work with US Defense Company for years, and actually walked away from that career and stepped into creating devices that are unheard of on the market.

Leah

Yes. So exciting. So. Tune in, turn on, and fall in love with Dr. Soum.

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The Evolution of Mystery Vibe

Willow

Okay.

Leah

Here we are.

Willow

Yes. And today we are going to have such a rich and juicy, deep conversation with Dr. Soum Rakshit, a doctor who has revolutionized, um, sexual play tools. And so the question is, what if the same technology used in defense systems could transform your sex life with Dr. Rakshit today we're gonna talk about how he left a lucrative career to pioneer devices that have helped over a hundred thousand people overcome intimate health challenges that so many people are just too embarrassed to even talk about. So we're so excited that you're here, Dr. Rakshit. And you are the CEO and founder of Mystery Vibe. Go ahead and tell us a little bit about how you came to this.

Soum

Thank, thank you so much for having me. And, um, you know, we are very excited to say that it's now 200,000 users. We've helped.

Willow

200,000 at

Soum

it's, it's, it's growing fast. Um,

Willow

Amazing.

Leah

congrats.

Soum

thank you. Um, well I think the big piece, like you said, is bringing the right amount of technology. From various parts. So we worked in defense before our work. Um, this is, goes back 2004, was on biometrics. So using cameras to look at I eyes irises to recognize people. So it was the same area of biomedical engineering, which is what we do now. But the application was very different, is used in security and national, uh, defense. Um, and even back then. We would work very closely with the doctors, the ophthalmologist, telling us exactly how the eye works, how it's created, how it moves, and then building the tech around it to the, to make it, um, a security application. So that's kind of how we got started in Biomedical with defense as the application. And then we use the exact same technology, which, you know, the components. All of that that we used in defense. Now working with urologists, gynecologists, um, pelvic floor therapist, now telling us what are the big problems with pelvic pain, vaginal dryness, recal dysfunction, prostate pain, all of these areas which are very common. Um, but when we started 11 years ago, uh, it was hard to even explain. do you mean by pelvic floor? There just wasn't enough awareness. There wasn't enough, um, education even within the medical community, outside the experts say, uh, primary care physician might not know the details of vaginal dryness after menopause. So, so I think, you know, we are very lucky that over the 11 years society has moved on so much that we don't have to explain a lot of the things anymore. Um, but when we started it was both using engineering to build the stuff, but also. Creating the education and awareness at the same time.

Innovative Solutions for Pelvic Floor Pain

Leah

I am curious, how are your products helping someone with pelvic floor pain?

Soum

So all our products are designed to be very malleable, um, and mimic what the standard of care would be, so the standard of care for pelvic flow therapy is fingers.

Leah

Mm-hmm.

Soum

use their fingers, they insert them, reach their points, press them, massage them. So the crescendo device, which is the PT device, is designed with PT is telling us how they would like something that the patient can use at home, which is the main purpose. So it is not better than going to a therapist. It, the outcome is the same.

Leah

Okay.

Soum

The main difference is that you have access to the care at home and ideally you'd have the first session with a therapist that explain exactly how you would use it and then use it ideally three times a week for 12 weeks. Uh, which is the right amount for therapy as well, and then go back three months later, um, for your, um, hopefully the final session in that, uh, setting where you are pain free. So the product is very much designed to mimic exactly what you would get in therapy. Be

Leah

Oh,

Willow

know, I was at a dinner party at Susan Bratton's and she brought out a whole box of mystery vibe

Leah

is that right?

Willow

yeah, we were playing with them and they are I don't, the, the, the malleability and the texture and the. Softness, but the, but the, but the structure and just, I mean, they're really something else. Like they're really superior products. So, um, you know,

Soum

Thank you,

Willow

that,

Soum

and Susan is amazing. She's been supporting us for years.

Willow

I know she,

Leah

She is a great ally. You want Susan Breton on your side? Let me tell you. Yeah.

Willow

Yeah. Yeah.

Career Transition: Military Biometrics to Sexual Wellness

Willow

So I'm so curious, like what was the turning point? Because you had a really lucrative career in the, um, you know, in the, like in the, in the pre previous business. What shifted, what kind of turned your attention toward sexual devices?

Leah

Yeah.

Soum

Yeah, that's, that's actually a really easy answer, once we did our work in ophthalmology and build this camera systems, um, that got acquired, uh, by a US uh, California company, um, and then we were looking at what next do we do? How do we bring our biomedical, because all of us spend years in biomedical already. So I did a PhD and a postdoc, and I really wanted to apply that, but in an area which was big, but not enough solutions.

Leah

Mm-hmm.

Soum

and we knew nothing about urology or gynecology, you know, uh, doing our work in ophthalmology. So we went to NHS, which is the National Health Service here in, uh, London. Um, and, uh, the head of NHS uh, clinical Entrepreneurship, he himself is a urologist, and he said, you know, the big area that we want people to be working in is urology and gynecology, because, uh, and this goes back, you know, more than, uh, like. When did we first, maybe 13, 14 years ago when we first had this conversation. And he said that there's just so much, uh, so many issues don't even get reported. And this is obviously, you know, a while back. Uh, but him as an expert knew how big the problem is. But public didn't. Like, there was no awareness of prostate cancer, which is one in six men. But often people would have prostate cancer, not even know. it was that bad back then, uh, with anything to do with sexual health. So, so it really is down to that, we got told that this is the big area that guys need to build stuff in and educate people in because almost everyone has some issue, you know, or multiple issues, uh, many times in life. So It's not something very complicated like, you know, solving, um, a very complex cancer. It's something that happens to everybody, you know, as a matter of life. Whether it's, postal birth pain or menopause or, E.D., it's just like normal life. It's nothing really, odd but there just wasn't enough solutions. Whether it's tablet based solution, therapy based solution, device based solution. There just wasn't enough solutions. So that was the, the driver behind deciding to put in our bio-med engineering expertise into Euro guide.

Willow

You were just done with one thing and looking for the next thing, and you were, and

Soum

Yes, exactly.

Willow

to find like, what, what is it

Soum

I.

Willow

needed in the market today? That's so great.

Soum

exactly. Yeah. And, and even today, uh, you know, the main thing I would add is when we build a device, it's very much driven by clinicians selling us what we should be building. You know, we, we don't have like a product roadmap saying, these are the things we are going to build just because we feel like building them. So, yeah.

Willow

And when you say clinicians, are you talking about medical doctors primarily or

Soum

Yeah. Uh, you know, therapists,

Willow

physical therapists, people who do

Leah

Yeah. Mm-hmm.

Soum

Anyone in sexual health. a very nice example is, uh, recently at a UA, the Urologist Association Conference. we met a, a doctor who said the big issue for them is post penal surgery rehabilitation. So, after surgery, the patients would need a special type of bandage in order to compress the penis and then, you know, obviously have to take it off or

Leah

What kind of surgery was this To the penis or just any surgical.

Soum

any penal surgery

Leah

Okay.

Soum

that would need rehabilitation. Um, which is generally with compression bandages, but it's quite difficult, you know, it gets wet and then you have to replace them.

Leah

Right

Soum

they, and, and you know, like a lot of our products just starts with these conversations. And they said, you know, can you guys figure out something? A way to address this without using bandages. And um, and we researched for a while and we figured out a way would be using magnets. So in

Leah

magnets?

Soum

Yeah, a, a very flexible medical silicone with magnets in between, which can be wrapped around the penis. And the magnet would be like a groove to tighten,

Leah

Okay.

Soum

So it can be as compressive or as relaxed as you need in

Leah

Wow, that is so cool.

Soum

reusable. So, you know, like

Leah

Okay.

Soum

we do often are quite simple. You know, it's not a complicated thing. Um, but driven by, uh, a real problem that the clinicians and the patients face right now, and there isn't any easy solution.

Leah

Yeah, if we can go back to the pelvic floor. So I've got a, um, a student who has just... penetration, uh, penis vagina penetration is just excruciating. It is so painful. The pain is mostly, uh, in and around entroitus. She's worked with dilators, she's done some pelvic floor therapeutic, um, interventions. Things have improved a little bit, but there's a sense of hopelessness, right? When you feel like you can't have the type of sex your friends are having that, that your partner really wants to have. It can feel so hopeless and so discouraging and i'm curious, so first two questions. One is, are a lot of your products being sold to medical professionals dealing with various issues that are more medical related? Are you also selling to the public for their own pleasure and exploration?

Soum

It's both. So yes, you could get the devices from your clinician, uh, it's F-S-H-S-A, so you know, you can use your F-S-H-S-A cards to buy them, but equally you can go to our website or Walmart or Amazon and buy the devices. You don't need a prescription. We are fully reimbursed by Veterans Affairs, so if you're a veteran, you can get it completely free, of course,

Leah

Wow.

Soum

um, through your V.A.

Leah

Yeah.

Soum

primary care. Uh, and the reason for that is pelvic pain is really big in female veteran soldiers, and erectile dysfunction is very big in male veteran soldiers. So, so the things that we do apply, uh, which is why, um, we are fully covered by them. So it really depends on, you know, your, um, circumstance, whether you would buy it online

Leah

Okay,

Soum

a clinician or through another channel.

Leah

it's, it's possible that your insurance could cover, uh, the devices.

Soum

only F-S-H-S-A.

Willow

yeah,

Soum

is partial. So the reimbursement code is what we are currently working on. So we presented, uh, so pelvic pain as of yet isn't covered from A DME, which is durable medical equipment perspective. However, it is covered from a CPT code, which means therapy is covered. Um, it depends

Leah

Okay.

Soum

where you go, but there are CPT codes for it. So we have presented to CMS, um, in order to create a DME code. Um, and even if we don't get a DME code, we should be able to get a S code. Um, what S code means is that it would be covered by private insurers, but not by Medicare and Medicaid.

Leah

Okay.

Soum

by the end of this year, we should have the S code.

Willow

amazing.

Soum

we started, uh, two years ago. Yeah.

Leah

Okay.

Willow

revolution, revolutionary event in and of itself for sexual devices. For them to

Soum

Yeah. And, and it would apply to anything in pelvic pain.

Willow

Even for FHSA for it to be covered by that is great.

Leah

Yeah.

Soum

took two years.

Leah

was gonna say, I was gonna say that must have been a process. Um, I have a follow-up question, and you may or may not be able to answer this. Maybe a pelvic floor therapist would be able to answer this more, but I'm curious with this particular example, how would your device work for that pain that resides, uh, right around the enteritis or the vaginal opening? Is there any way you can explain that? I was just looking at the device online to kind of see its shape.

Soum

so that's actually a different device. Um, it's called a Legato and it's designed for people who cannot insert anything at all.

Leah

Okay.

Soum

Um, so the device I was talking about earlier is crescendo and it's

Leah

Okay.

Soum

mimic fingers going inside.

Leah

Okay.

Soum

we have another version called Malta, which is a single finger going inside for people who don't want two finger width. However, um, for patients who cannot insert anything at all. It's a completely different, um, modality where the device legato, which looks like this, it sits at, on the labia and it vibrates to create blood flow and arousal and lubrication. Um, so the original reason why we created it is based on feedback from menopause specialists creating something that sits externally can to be used during intercourse. Yeah. So it's a very big opening

Leah

Okay.

Willow

does

Soum

yeah.

Willow

go through, does it pass through the intro at all or just stimulate the vulva.

Soum

It just stimulates the vulva and the, um, labia. So it's purely like, um, oh. You know, um,

Willow

you would recommend for this, uh,

Soum

so for someone who cannot insert anything,

Leah

She, she can, she can be penetrated. Um, is it possible that it would be helpful to use both those devices together? Mm-hmm.

Soum

Yeah. Because the gap is so big.

Leah

Yeah. The one digit? Yeah. Yeah.

Soum

tool. Yeah. It's literally index finger. And again, that is, and this is what's so interesting about our devices. So typically we get told X, you know, it's like one thing and we build something for that, and then it's used somewhere completely different. And,

Leah

Of course, right?

Soum

out much later,

Leah

Mm-hmm.

Soum

Years later we find out it's being used, you know, in a big amount there. So MAL is the perfect example of that. It was designed.

Leah

Malta.

Soum

Yeah. It was designed,

Leah

Oh.

Soum

uh, M-O-L-T-O, malto. So it was designed to mimic, uh, the index finger in order to reach the prostate, vibrate the prostate, and help with pain relief. Yeah. And it's very common, like typically go to a urologist and they would insert the fingers literally that there's nothing special. Yeah. And then that, because it's so slim, um became really useful in pelvic flow therapy for women who had, you know, never even heard of our device for prostate care.

Leah

Right. Right.

Willow

Right. Right.

Leah

Wow.

Soum

yeah.

Willow

Now, I'm, I have a student example now. So, um, so I've got a, a, a guy who has like, the, the point of penetration is kind of when he goes away, like he can't experience his body anymore due to a lot of, um, you know, more, more pressure from society, performance anxiety, that kind of things. So I'm just curious. I'm sure you have an amazing device that would Help his, like, um, being able to penetrate without getting overly excited and overly pressured in that moment. But I'm also curious if you've found, um, your, the use of your devices to really help people in their mind as well, to help them get over limiting beliefs, societal constructs, things that really block us from having better sex.

Leah

I, can I ask a distinction in your question? Willow? Are you saying that he goes away at the point of penetrating someone or being penetrated himself?

Willow

Penetrating someone.

Leah

Got it.

Soum

And, and do you mean? Um, he has erection, uh, erectile dysfunction as a result of psychogenic.

Willow

Uh, he, he, I wouldn't say he has more just like, um, you know, feeling like perf like he needs to perform, like he needs to do it, right? Like he has, he's got this pressure. And so then at the point of penetration, if there hasn't been enough buildup for him at that point of penetration, he, um,

Leah

Dissociates.

Willow

He kind of like, you know, he just gets too excited. He just gets

Leah

Does that mean he ejaculates or like.

Willow

I would say probably sometimes, like, probably there's a, um, a, a premature ejaculation thing going on at some times, but I think that, that it's, it's sort of just is causing this anxiety about penetrating at all.

Leah

Yeah. Does it like ruin sex for him where he is just like now he is just in his head?

Soum

That that is. Um, so interestingly, uh, and kind of all of this falls under the psychogenic, um, side of, uh, male sexual dysfunction. Uh, where physiologically everything is fine, you know, arteries, blood flow, uh, muscles, et cetera. Um, and it's, um, in the mind. Um, and sadly 40%, which is the biggest segment, um, of Ed specifically is psychogenic. But, premature ejaculation is also a massive issue, um, as well, especially amongst younger men, which ironically becomes a different issue later

Leah

I know, isn't that? Yeah. Geez. Yeah. Right.

Soum

As you get older, it gets harder and harder to ejaculate, uh, um, whereas early on it's the reverse problem. Um, so the work we do, and the reason I brought it up is all on the delayed side. Um, and there is actually really good company, um, on premature ejaculation called my Mihixel and what they do.

Willow

it called?

Soum

Mihixel

Leah

Can you spell that?

Soum

I think it's M-I-H-I-X-E-L.

Willow

Okay.

Soum

Also a med device um, but what they do is training, so they have a device and a, uh, you know, like a sleeve, right? it has like compression and stuff and there's an app and it tells you when to stop and then train yourself so you don't ejaculate, and then do a bit more and then stop, you know, like it's a

Leah

Okay. It, uh, monitors your, your response and so helps you delay your ejaculation by giving you presence to stop all friction.

Willow

And if,

Soum

Exactly.

Willow

heard of a penis sleeve before, it's kind of like a, a big rubber

Leah

You talking about a, oh, you're not talking about like a pocket pussy,

Willow

No, we're talking about a penis sleeve.

Leah

a penis sleeve,

Willow

it's kind of thick generally, and it kind of

Soum

yeah,

Willow

would, it, would it create more girth if you were having sex with a penis sleeve? There would be more

Soum

yeah.

Willow

girth around that penis

Leah

so.

Willow

So this device, it

Soum

No, this device is really big. Like you, it's just to train.

Leah

Yeah, but it, it's for, it's self pleasure. Obviously you wouldn't use this with a partner when the stakes are really high. Yeah,

Soum

very much a, it's, it's very much like a training device you use and you learn to control your

Leah

yeah,

Soum

three months, six

Leah

sure.

Willow

cool.

Soum

Uh, and then, you know, hopefully you've already got to the point where you can control your ejaculation and

Leah

Yeah.

Soum

you don't need the device and you know, you,

Leah

That's, that's great. So it's measuring basically so you have a more felt sense awareness of where your "I could come soon" triggers are, those sensations, that mindfulness, so that you can track that when the stakes are high and you might be with a partner. Okay.

Soum

Yeah.

Willow

to

Leah

Yeah.

Soum

The other thing I would add to that, um, you know, the, uh, patient you mentioned is, if they use, penile constriction ring.

Willow

Yeah.

Soum

Uh, as long as it's the right size, it's comfortable, then even if they ejaculate, they can maintain direction and,

Leah

Mm.

Soum

and have intercourse. Uh, which is a, you know, big part of say using a vacuum pump, uh, which is a really common device for ed. It's using a vacuum pump to get erect,

Leah

Are you talking about a penis pump?

Soum

Yes. Correct.

Leah

And when you say ring, are you talking about a cock ring?

Soum

Uh, yes, but you could get them very specifically, which have, let's say a bit in the bottom to allow for ejaculation, not just a simple circle,

Willow

Not a

Soum

the, the, the challenge with using a circle is it constricts the blood and the semen.

Leah

Okay.

Willow

learned about

Soum

rings.

Willow

incredible coch rings that, um, what was that doctor's name?

Leah

Dr. Justin. Yeah.

Soum

Elliot has a really good one. Uh, it's called Firm Tech.

Leah

yeah, yeah,

Soum

exactly.

Willow

monitors, like when you're sleeping, it monitors

Soum

Correct.

Willow

um,

Soum

Nocturnal

Leah

yeah. Your nocturnal erections.

Willow

like that for, for

Leah

Yeah. Oh yeah. Do you have any cock rings that are specifically sized or have a unique design?

Soum

So the device we make, uh, specifically for erections is tenuto. Uh, it has two sizes, uh, tenuto, the large one and the small one. Um, and what that does is it solves the issue of having two separate devices. One, to get erect like a vacuum, penis pump. And two, to hold the erection using a ring. So this does is vibrates on the penis, glans the head

Leah

Okay.

Soum

the arousal and the blood flow, and then you stretch it, bring it back and place it at the base to constrict the penis bloods in the penis and have a gap in the bottom for ejaculation. And then the big version also has a separate perineum stimulator to continue that arousal the blood flow to the penis. So what that does is address eD issues, which are blood flow related. Um, I mean, the problem is that's all we can do. What we cannot solve, and you need definitely, uh, is the world's first wearable device. for is when it's psychogenic, um, we can still physiologically help with blood flow. Um, so we have a publication on that helping psychogenic ed patients get erect again, because it just does a very physical activity of pushing the blood in. Um, but we would still say the underlying reasons need to be addressed as to why say performance anxiety, stress is affecting erection

Breakthrough Prostate Stimulation Research

Soum

and ejaculation.

Leah

Do you have any solutions that you're working with now that are, uh, pertaining to men of a difficult time reaching climax?

Willow

Like they just

Leah

can't get over the hill and their partner's like, would you cum already and

Soum

yeah. Yes, exactly. So we just recently published a paper, um, which is the first paper of its kind, uh, which I'm so excited about it. Um, using prostate stimulation to overcome an ejaculation. I. And delayed. So

Willow

able to

Soum

being, yes. So, um, uh, so the multi device Yep. Um, which originally was designed for

Leah

The pro okay to the prostate pain management for prostate pain.

Soum

And no one had ever done a study linking prostate simulation to ejaculation.

Leah

That's great.

Soum

it was the first time ever. No. The reason is there wasn't any device to do it with. It's not that the, the, uh, urologist

Willow

this

Soum

knew. But that's, that's the problem, is you cannot really run a study

Willow

can't,

Soum

with, you know, where you have to constantly go to somebody to do because you can't physically reach your own prostate. And that was the big issue, right? So, and, and this is not somebody with any prostate issues, so you would not really do that. Um, but the theory was always there that because the prostate creates semen, stimulating it should lead to ejaculation. And that theory is very obvious, but no one had ever done a study because there was nothing to study with. Yeah. So, so that,

Willow

the MAL two.

Soum

yeah. So the study got published, uh, last month, um,

Willow

cool. So

Soum

proves that,

Willow

about this study.

Leah

Yeah, well, tell us the findings.

Soum

Uh, it, it, it's a very early study in the sense that I think it was, um, 20 25 patients, um, all with either delayed or an ejaculation problems, and then they used Molto, it depends on the patient. I think most of them were 10 minutes per session for, um, I think three months. Um, and, and, and they had a significant, and there is a, uh, score to measure and they had a significant improvement in their ejaculation, both from delayed to Ann. Um, and then that got accepted and published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. So that was really exciting. Yeah.

Leah

So, um, let me walk me through that process. So, in the study, are men having sex with the toy inside of them to help with that ejaculatory response, or is it self pleasure and then working with, but they're, they are actively, um, stroking their penis while having this prostate stimulation.

Soum

correct. Yes. And the uh, and, and this cohort of patients didn't have other is issues like ed. So their only issue in order to keep the study simple,

Leah

Yeah.

Soum

only issue was to do with ejaculation. They didn't have other sexual dysfunctions at the same time. So very much the application of process simulation and stroking would then lead to a different outcome from just stroking without any stimulation.

Leah

And, um, it's a vibrator.

Soum

Yes, it is a vibrator

Leah

Okay.

Soum

so, and it's very bendy. It's like a finger, but it adapts to the rectum and reaches

Leah

Yeah, and I noticed it has a very large, um, uh, Base. So therefore, if they're not holding it in, it'll stay in by itself.

Soum

it will stay in and more importantly for safeties, it won't get sucked in.

Leah

Yeah. Yeah.

Soum

Yeah.

Leah

All right. Well, cool. I look forward to recommending that to some people I know who are really struggling it with it. In particular, I have one student who shared confidentiality wise that he was having a hard time reaching climax with his wife. I. In his other side relationships, he wasn't having any problem reaching climax. And I think that more has to do with, um, the excitement of a new partner and probably the levels of hormones are going up with somebody who's new versus someone you've been married to for a long time. Yeah.

Soum

definitely.

Leah

Okay.

From Military Tech to Sexual Wellness Applications

Leah

Very interesting.

Willow

I wanna kind of roll, roll back to, um, you know, you used to work in defense creating like military defense devices. So you're, you're an engineer at heart, so you've, how, how, like what were you creating? Were you creating guns? Were you creating explosives? What were you

Soum

N nothing, nothing complicated.

Willow

that Yeah,

Soum

No, this is, this is so long back. Drones didn't even exist. Uh, I'm talking about 20, 21 years ago. So you know what we made. It's called Iris on the Move. So it's a gate which is used in airports, literally a walkthrough gate.

Willow

Okay.

Leah

Like a robot type of device, like, uh

Willow

at an airport?

Leah

oh, okay. Got it.

Soum

TSA,

Leah

Yes.

Soum

and then you have to walk through this frame,

Leah

Yeah.

Soum

So we built a version of that called Iris on the move,

Willow

Okay.

Soum

had a camera,

Willow

To

Soum

which as you walked through, would capture, match and by the time you had finished walking. It would know who you are and

Leah

Oh, so like facial recognition type of thing.

Soum

like face exactly like that, but with eyeballs. Exactly.

Willow

eyeballs. Okay,

Leah

kidding.

Willow

how, how did that technology translate into a vulva pain and ED issues?

Soum

Well, the, you, you know what, the underlying tech, the electronics, all of that is basically the same, right? So we custom designed everything back then, you know, to fit in the gate. And, uh, the only difference is now we have more processing power than 21 years ago. Uh, so we can do a lot more stuff in a tiny chip, um,

Willow

Okay,

Soum

which we couldn't do. So.

Willow

in these like tiny little

Soum

chips. Exactly. So the underlying electronics, it's not complicated, right? At least. At least not not.

Willow

like an engineer geek? Just

Soum

Yes,

Willow

together and take things apart?

Soum

yes. It still still am, which is why we can't really leave this field because no matter how old we get, we want to be in the lab building stuff.

Willow

be

Soum

Yeah.

Leah

Uh. I wanna know a little bit about the technology you're using for orgasm for women. Now we know, we've talked about ejaculation for men with the prostate, um, product. What, what are you doing? What's out there that's working, having to do with women reaching climaxes?

Soum

That's a really good point because we have a study on an orgasm. Um,

Willow

Meaning

Soum

uh.

Willow

able to have an orgasm

Soum

And we also have a study on arousal disorder, which is, um, you know, often an issue which leads to, um, not being able to orgasm. Um, and a separate paper on vaginal dryness. Um, all of these things are interconnected, the fundamental point to everything is vibratory stimulation between 50 and a hundred hertz is what is clinically proven for decades, and this is not our research. Uh, this there is really well established mammoth amount of uh, research on vibration. Um, starting from 1890s,

Leah

Right.

Soum

with hysteria,

Leah

Right. Um.

Soum

interesting point about vibration is it was invented by a doctor for sexual dysfunction. It was medical for at least the first 50 years. It only became a pleasure device in the seventies. Now obviously most people know it as a pleasure, uh, device, you

Medical Vibration Therapy: 130-Year Clinical History

Soum

know, when it comes to vibrators. But the majority of, majority of the history of vibration and its application has been medical. So the professor at King's College, who's our Chief Medical Officer, has been researching on vibration for 30 years long before we started. Um, which is why, um, the doctor at NHS connected me with him saying, if you do this company, you must have this professor because has been working on vibration for a long time on various things like, you know, passing urine. How, how can a vibration on the bladder help someone pee who cannot pee? Uh, like research like this, which, you know, goes back three decades. So the, um, work is all about vibration. Going back to orgasms, all we do is make it very precise. The frequency and the deliverability. Um, point. And, and that's really all we do fundamentally. It's not complicated. Make sure that the vibration frequency is the right, um, number, uh, based on what has worked before and make it really malleable and easy for the patient, the user, to get to the point where they need

Anorgasmia Treatment: Overcoming Mental Barriers

Soum

it. Yep. Um, so, uh, the anorgasmia, um, topic is really interesting. What we found is often, um, women who couldn't orgasm could get very close, then something

Leah

But short circuit. Yeah.

Soum

So what happened is, uh, with the vibration being at the right point, wherever that right point is for them, um, this was an internal, uh, intravaginal, uh, study in the sense that it only vibrate inside. And they could

Leah

Wait, wait, wait. Hold on, hold on. Sorry. I have to interrupt you. It only vibrated inside the vagina, so there was no vibration to the clitoris?

Soum

Um, with the device. You can in theory have both sides,

Leah

Uhhuh.

Soum

vibrating. But, uh, the way the study was set up is we left it to the patient to decide what is the right place for them.

Leah

Okay.

Soum

because for some users they need both. Some users, they don't like both. Um, but everyone had internal stimulation whether or not they had external and they didn't use anything else. Um, so just one device. And what the conclusion was that the reason they were able to orgasm was they could get over that barrier by delivering high power vibration on the point that is really arousing for them, and it kept going to overcome their mental barriers.

Willow

What do you mean? It kept going

Soum

as in the vibration,

Leah

The vibration.

Soum

the point that they felt was the right point for them, which is why we didn't specify.

Willow

okay.

Leah

Which is why they didn't short circuit. Yeah. That moment where they tend to go, oh my God, it goes away. That vibration continues at a certain level so that they can cross that hurdle.

Soum

it. Yeah.

Leah

Interesting.

Soum

needed, they decided how much, there's a one to 16 level, so they, they decided how much power is the right amount

Willow

Mm-hmm.

Soum

then they could deliver that continuously, um, to the point that they could overcome the barriers.

Willow

So this, this I'm imagining mostly is like on the g spot inside internally, but

Soum

Yes, exactly. Exactly.

Willow

it, are you having, are women also using this device or one of your devices to kind of open and stimulate cervix for cervical orgasms?

Soum

Uh, we haven't, uh, I I don't think we've done any studies on that, um, whether any of the studies did have patients using it that way we haven't captured.

Leah

You haven't tracked.

Soum

be a really good study to do.

Willow

Yes, that would

Soum

Yeah.

Leah

that'd be fascinating. Mm-hmm.

Willow

And

Soum

Yeah. And the device is long enough to do it. The crescendo device is long enough to do it.

Willow

one could do it. Okay,

Leah

Okay, so, um,

Soum

looking for new studies all the time.

Leah

yeah, I, yes, if you needed volunteers, we'll dedicate our bodies to science. Um,

Soum

any time we have at least 10 studies running.

Leah

yeah. Wow. That's great. Well, friends, this is the perfect moment if you haven't done it already, to like and subscribe. And please comment on what you've been hearing so far. Are you as riveted as we are? Please, uh, bring your questions to the table.

Willow

Yeah. And next Dr. Rakshit is going to reveal the shocking medical condition that's been affecting one in three women. That's inspired one of his most groundbreaking devices.

Soum

Well, it's something we talk about all the time, but not many people realize how many women

Period Pain Crisis: One in Three Women Affected

Soum

it affects. Uh, so it's period pain. One in three women of menstruating age, um, have period pain so severe

Leah

So severe.

Soum

work.

Leah

Or school. God, I had friends in high school who like every month they have to spend two days at home.

Willow

I was that girl.

Leah

Really? Ugh. The dreaded pain.

Willow

oh, it was horrible. Hot

Soum

And, and to think it's one in three, but very few people, like, apart from, you know, people working in sexual health, I don't think anyone realizes that stat. every, every everyone knows

Leah

No.

Soum

there. Everyone is aware that period pain is a thing. But I would say 99% people think it's just another pain and you can, you know, do whatever you do.

Leah

Right.

Soum

But I don't think anyone outside.

Willow

pain. Yeah.

Soum

I don't think anyone outside sexual health knows that one in three women cannot do anything

Leah

Like severe. I didn't,

Willow

do anything, like have

Soum

yeah,

Willow

sit in pain

Soum

yeah,

Willow

Yeah.

Soum

yeah. Every month. Yeah.

Willow

month and with my, you know, this has been a huge part of my work is, um, I've been in women's health and wellness for so long and it's been, uh, you know, using herbs and using using acupuncture, all of that stuff can make a huge, huge difference in moving that stagnant blood out of the womb. But they also have have to have enough blood to like push through that stagnant blood. So if there's a blood deficiency, then we need to also tonify their blood. Um, and then what I found for myself and for many of my students as well, is like we would get to a certain level of pain release relief. Um, but then there would still be a little bit of this like underlying. And then when I started using the Taoist sexual practices, specifically ovarian breathing to pump energy through the ovaries, through the fallopian tubes, through the womb, um, that pretty much wiped everything out. So I'm so excited to learn about what you, um,

Leah

very.

Willow

as a non womb owner. I mean, I think that's miraculous in and of itself.

Soum

Yeah, but you've, you've literally explained exactly what a device does

Leah

No way.

Soum

it does is

Wearable Devices for Women's Health Innovation

Soum

blood flow and that's it. Um, so, so what we have designed is this, um, you know, think of it as like a. Um, rectangular thing. Yeah. it's very slim, um, obviously made of medical silicone with vibration motors inside, it's, um, so

Leah

What's it called?

Soum

uh, it's called Soto. Uh, it's not, uh, released yet. It's still

Leah

Hmm. Okay.

Soum

all our products take at least five years. Um, and this, this one luckily is in the fifth year and it's, um, we've already finished the medical trials.

Willow

Ladies.

Soum

should,

Leah

Okay.

Soum

months.

Willow

We're

Leah

Yeah.

Soum

so, so, um, uh, what it does is, uh, it sticks to your lower abdomen. So basically just below the belly button. It's a sticky thing. Yeah. Uh, very easy to, um, attach, uh, take out. Um, and it's very slim, so you just put it on, wear your clothes, you know, get on with your day, it's very quiet

Leah

Hmm,

Soum

12 hour runtime, and that was really important.

Willow

on, turn it on, and

Leah

and it vibrates.

Soum

Exactly

Willow

than Aleve.

Soum

it vibrates. Uh, but again, you know, the right frequency is the right amount, but for a very long time. So one of the biggest challenges we faced with building this is often pain lasts quite long

Leah

Right. You have to charge it.

Soum

Exactly. And that's obviously not possible, you know, when you're out. Um, and most of our

Leah

Yay.

Soum

are designed to last 2 hours maximum

Leah

Sure.

Soum

it for more than that. Um, whereas this one, two hours was not going to be enough, so we had to redesign it so that everything to make it last 12 hours. Um,

Leah

Well.

Soum

um, but uh, so we ran a study, um, and there was, so while it was, uh, vibrating, in all the cases, they either didn't feel the pain or was very, very minimal.

Willow

Mm.

Soum

So, so basically it's continuously getting blood flowing. Um, that fundamentally that's all it's doing. So it's not complicated. Um, but it was more about usability of the device that you can, know, go out, do your things. Um,

Willow

of it.

Soum

yes.

Leah

I'm curious.

Willow

now in this study, 'cause I always wanna know more details about what kind of blood is coming out. You know, are you now seeing more clots being passed, Is it dark?

Soum

Oh, that, that we don't know yet because this is, um, so we do two types of studies. One is a study while a product is still being created, um, which is not a formal study in the sense that we, we don't publish these. It's just purely to inform product research. Then once the product is fully out, you know, regulated, et cetera, then we would do a proper medical trial. To get clinical evidence and publish papers. So it's two separate things. And this, this was, this was more like studies to understand what is working, what is not working,

Willow

Mm-hmm.

Soum

to then decide what the final product should be. Um, to, which is why all of our development takes forever. Um, like, you know, we are working on

Willow

a pretrial, then

Soum

Exactly,

Willow

and have a post trial to

Soum

exactly.

Willow

that you wanna put out to the public.

Soum

And often the pretrial would tell us that the product that we made isn't good enough and we'd redo the whole thing, which is why it's so useful. And that's happened many. Yeah. It's happened to many, many products, uh, where we, we build something.

Willow

so exceptional.

Soum

Well, but I think the most important thing is healthcare, you can't really launch anything, which is not good enough.

Willow

That's true.

Soum

Like, the clinicians trust that you would, you know, make sure you're doing, um, all the right things, both safety and efficacy. And so if we are in a rush to launch something, it would definitely not be good enough.

Willow

Right,

Soum

Um, like there's a product we are working on, which we are really excited about, but it's at least a year away. Uh, it's a mastitis bra, so it's, um.

Willow

that's gonna be amazing for women.

Soum

Um, and you know the

Leah

what's that? A mastitis bra

Willow

mastitis, um, often when

Leah

from nursing. Okay.

Willow

where one of the like

Leah

nipple ducks. The glands are inflamed and

Willow

it hurts like a

Leah

Yeah,

Willow

It's so

Leah

I, yeah. Yeah. Yes.

Soum

Currently, there are no solutions.

Willow

no

Leah

Right

Willow

Cabbage is the

Soum

Uh, warm towels generally is what people would

Leah

Uhhuh.

Soum

And so it's such a massive thing, no solutions at all. Um,

Leah

Wow.

Soum

so excited about getting that out so we can,

Leah

When do you, when do you propose that we'll launch

Soum

at least a year away. Sadly,

Leah

what does it do?

Soum

uh, it's literally the same thing as the period paint belt, soft, sticky silicone, um, you know, like those sticky bras. Uh,

Leah

Yeah, that cover your nipples, so, yeah. Yeah.

Soum

that, you know, just like a bigger version of that, uh, again, with vibration. And then so that one, we are going to have vibration and heat, so that's why it's a lot more

Leah

Oh, interesting. Yeah.

Soum

heat and vibration.

Willow

feel good, just even if you don't have mastitis.

Leah

Yeah. Just for,

Soum

Yeah,

Leah

yeah.

Willow

on your breasts. Yes, please. I mean, I think over you. What I'm predicting what you're gonna find with that particular product is that it also supports breast health,

Soum

Mm-hmm.

Willow

know,

Soum

Yep.

Willow

um, like fi, fibrocystic breast tissue,

Soum

Yep.

Willow

opening up any kind of breast, um, issues. However, if somebody has breast cancer, probably they don't wanna use that device.

Soum

Yep. No, exactly. There'll be so many applications. And also we always tell people, you know, if you have any complications, check with your doctor before you use anything.

Leah

Now,

Soum

emails about, you know, questions and we always tell them to check with their clinician first.

Leah

how long does it take for, um, you to come up with an idea for a product, do all the testing and get it to the marketplace? What's the general length of time? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. What, what?

Soum

the breast pain device, it has the most number of parts.

Willow

most

Soum

and it, it just means, it, it, so many things need to be perfect. Um, and, and the reason I use that word is because once in med tech, you can't really do minimum viable product. It just, it's not, know, you can't get that through regulatory approval. Um, you know, also, you don't want to invest a lot of money on clinical trials when the product is not final. So you want to get to the point where the product is really, really good. And, and sometimes it does happen that we think the product's really, really good. We do trials, but it's not good enough. Then like, you know, crescendo became crescendo two to two because we just were not happy enough with that device even though it was final. So that does happen, but generally we try to make sure we have gathered as much feedback as possible before we launch anything. So. It is really simple. Maybe start to finish would be three years.

Leah

Okay.

Soum

if it's complicated it could be six, seven years.

Leah

Okay. And is there any products or any issues that we haven't mentioned that you think would be important to mention?

Soum

Um, so one of the things we're currently working on is adding sensors. Um, and this is again, you know, quite far away in the sense that. It being an actual product in the market, we need different

Prostate Health and Massage Therapy Benefits

Soum

types of studies. So a, a simple example would be enlarged prostate. So the Molto device obviously, you know, is inserted, can reach the prostate and, uh, vibrate. But what we are working on now is adding sensors inside the, so it'll look the same. It will work the same, but it will be able to capture at least temperature, pressure and moisture, data. And then what we would have to do is run a big study to match whether there is a correlation between those data points for

Leah

Okay.

Soum

prostate

Leah

Yeah, I feel almost like the,

Soum

a completely perfect prostate. Yeah. And then if we can prove that, then we would know that there is a certain range feeling a lot more, uh. three metrics need to be where your prostate is fine and another range where you should go

Leah

Check your doctor. I'm glad you brought this up because this was a question I had running through my mind earlier, what do you have to say about men who have gotten test results that their PSA scores are a little elevated, their prostate is swollen. And how do you feel about prostate massage as an intervention to try to lower those scores? Lower the swelling, um, as a preventative to something escalating like prostate cancer?

Soum

That is literally what Malto is designed to do

Leah

Okay. Great.

Soum

massage, because that's literally what you would get if you went to a clinician with an enlarged prostate. Exactly. That's, that's all they do. Um, you know, like from a physical perspective, that is literally it inserting a finger and pressing it. Prostate massage. So the, the challenge is that you cannot, as a patient, do it to yourself,

Willow

own.

Soum

which means that most prostate health gets worse because you simply do not have the time to go see a, it is, the therapist, you know, uh, uh, once a week, which would be the, you know, ideal frequency. Uh, that's just not possible.

Leah

Right, but a partners can do this for their loved one, and so you would recommend to massage that prostate once a week. At what point is it dangerous or not helpful to continue to do the prostate massage as maybe they already have cancer or whatnot.

Soum

I think the w with these things we always tell people, do what you feel comfortable. You know, obviously don't do it if there's too much pain. Um, but really there is no bad of pro massage there, there's nothing, you know, nothing, nothing wrong with prostate massage. So, um, but obviously, you know, if you're in excruciating pain, you don't want to do something whether with a device, with a partner, or you know, with a clinician that you want to go get it checked properly. Maybe there is, maybe it's reached a point where you need, um, surgery. Um, and obviously that's something you obviously cannot solve. Um, but generally the recommendation from all urologists is regular prostate massage is just going to make your prostate health better.

Willow

Healthier.

Leah

Wonderful. Glad, glad to get that confirmed.

Willow

Everybody listen, I, I really wanna tell my parents generation loud and clear prostate massages good for you.

Leah

Yes.

Willow

I'm, I'm curious, um, how do you come up with the names for these devices and how How do you have total?

Soum

Uh, in the market. Six. So those are the ones which are, you know, been there.

Willow

Ok, so when Susan brought out that huge box, a lot of those are not on the market.

Soum

Uh, no, maybe, I think she has multiple of.

Willow

Oh,

Soum

has loads of, she has loads of her devices.

Willow

of

Soum

Yeah. She has lots of her devices, um, over the years.

Willow

Yeah. Okay.

Soum

So six, which are in the market, in the market means, you know, they have clinical studies, they obviously are FDA, they're all of FHSA, so that, that's why it takes a while for anything to be in the market. Um, and then the period pain coming out next, uh, breast pain hopefully in a year. Um, the penal compression one, maybe this year it's just very slow process. Um, how,

Leah

Mm-hmm.

Soum

we name them? Really simple. We try to make them quite, uh, user friendly. So we think of Italian musical notes, um,

Willow

Oh, is

Soum

and,

Willow

it

Soum

and, and that that's all it is. So ev every, um, e every, everything has a meaning. Like crescendo means, you know, reaching a peak. Um, Molto, hang on. I, I need to give you the right now. So Molto means a lot.

Willow

A

Soum

lot.

Leah

Cool. I love that. Great question, Willow. I like that.

Soum

And, and you know why we thought of Malto as a lot is because the, uh, in theory the most, um, the strongest orgasm a man can have is through prostate.

Willow

prostate.

Leah

Yeah. Oh yeah. Yes. Is that because, is is that because of the, the hypogastric nerve then gets combined with all the other nerves, like the vagus and the pelvic and the pudendal.

Soum

It is and also the prostate is the semen gland.

Leah

Okay. And because it's a semen gland. Wow. How fun.

Willow

All right.

Leah

Um.

Willow

so I know we have some listeners out there who are in the field. They are dakini's, daka's, tantra

Leah

flied, pelvic floor specialists.

Willow

You know, um, who are really working with,

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Willow

with clients hands-on. And I know that you guys have affiliate links. Is there a way that they could become affiliates for these products?

Soum

Yes, absolutely. And, and we really want more and more people talking about this. Um, so on our website, there's a little link, uh, on the bottom in the footer for affiliate signup, but, um, I'll also share that so you can add it to the footnotes.

Leah

Yeah, I mean, I can see, you know, both gynecologists, urologists, all sorts of people recommending these products, uh, so that people can continue having interventions that will be easy to do at home. And you've been so generous to offer our, our audience a coupon.

Soum

Yes, uh, SXR 20.

Leah

Great.

Soum

on top of our site sale, which will probably be 35% off soon.

Leah

Right. uh, sale. Okay. So you're saying now, let me just get this straight. You're saying that they can use both the 20% off discount and the 35% discount? That's 55% off.

Willow

Yes, 55% off.

Leah

Um, you know, I'll be shopping. I hope the rest of you will too. And you guys, this isn't all, y'all are so generous. We also have a free gift, um, which is the how to introduce more fun in the bedroom. What is that?

Soum

I believe that one is written by Susan Bratton.

Leah

Oh, great. Okay.

Soum

It'll be incredibly good.

Leah

Yes, I, and we can verify that. So, uh, we'll have the link in the show notes for the coupon code, for the affiliate link and for the free gift, how to introduce more fun in the bedroom. Thank you so much for being on the show. This was so enlightening, so fun. And, uh, we can't wait to get a bunch of questions in from our listeners. We'll have you back on the show and we can take another deep dive.

Soum

Thank you so much for having me.

Willow

Such a pleasure.

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Willow

I just loved interviewing Saum. I mean, fascinating journey and you know, what a, what a brain, what a brain to be walking around in this world with.

Leah

Yeah, I love the, um, the perspective and the lens that this all started from. And I love the problems that they are committed to solving because these have been great mysteries, uh, for both men and women when it comes to sexual function and fulfillment. That has been elusive and it has just kind of felt tragic until this conversation, which I am just feel so filled with hope.

Willow

Yeah, I definitely shed a lot of hope. I mean, the whole, um, contraption that he's coming out with right now for mastitis, that is huge. That is gonna be a major, major game changer for women who are breastfeeding. And then, you know, the, the painful period one, all of these um, devices and contraptions. I still think it is important to, like when you're, when you're looking at painful periods, to be looking at your diet, to be looking at your stress levels and to be looking at herbs as well as these, um, contraptions. But yeah, as far as like waking up the prostate gland and, you know, stimulating the GSpot o or the, the cervix in new ways with these devices that he's created, I would say do not pass go.

Leah

Well, I'm really glad that you brought up the holistic piece because it's important that people know that it's not just, you know, one medication or one device or one toy that is going to resolve all the suffering. You need to look at it from a holistic point of view. And look at many angles to tackle it from. And by doing so, I think you just increase your overall wellbeing, your overall health, and you know, all that stuff. So it's not only beneficial for the issue at hand, but typically ends up benefiting all these other sectors in your life when you're taking a look at your diet and these other interventions.

Willow

Absolutely gonna create so much more longevity in so many ways. And, you know, I just, um, this morning started rereading existential kink. I think that's a

Leah

Oh, really?

Willow

holistic way of like,

Leah

Mm

Willow

the suffering that you're going through. Like what, what unconscious part of yourself loves the painful periods or loves having, um. Uh, you know, I was just talking to a potential client yesterday, I think it was, who was having, um, painful orgasms. And it is

Leah

mm

Willow

have clients

Leah

I

Willow

orgasms,

Leah

I hear about that. Yes. That would've been a good question for him.

Willow

But I've had a lot of success in helping them have non-painful orgasms and

Leah

by how what? What have you done? That's

Willow

Through Taoist practices and um,

Leah

any tips you can share with the audience?

Willow

hands-on, well, it depends on, you know, the person's body and like what, what nerves and pelvic floor tissues are impinged and what, you

Leah

Hmm.

Willow

muscle groups and ligaments and stuff might be tied up. So it's a sort of a combination between hands-on and then, um, you know, running energy in different ways and also, um, doing some out emotional release to find that place inside to get really deeper into the sensation. 'Cause when we experience pain, we wanna get away from it, you know? So the whole premise of existential kink 'cause to like delight in the suffering and delight in the pain. And so this is totally off topic from what Suam talking

Leah

Well, but I think it's an, an interesting thing to bring up that is relatable to the whole interview is this piece around painful orgasms. And so if you are out there and you are experiencing this, give Dr. Willow, uh, get on her discovery call calendar because, um, she may have some answers for you. And it sounds like you're really tackling it from three places. Uh, the physiological, um, you know places that are stuck with tension, and then the energetic movement of that tension, and then the psychological, uh, uh, inquiry that helps someone relieve where they're storing, let's say an inflection point, a trauma, a crisis, a piece of stress in the tissue itself.

Willow

Absolutely. Yeah. And it was so, you know, it was so cool hearing some talk about his devices. 'Cause I was like, oh, this is gonna be another piece to incorporate, to teach people how to use. Don't just be going up and looking for the pleasure spots and the orgasm spots. Like go in and look for the places that feel uncomfortable, that feel painful, and then start to talk to the tissue and unravel it from that, from that angle. And he did speak to that. He is like, find that, find that place that is, um, pleasurable, and then move a little bit beyond it into that tissue that's not pleasurable. Really is amazing. What happens when we open the pelvic floor tissue? It's like

Leah

Mm-hmm.

Willow

the brain up, opens the whole mind up.

Leah

Yeah, as you know, one of the tips we give people is, you know, build a highway from a pleasure zone to a painful zone. So with your fingers, you dip into pleasure, you massage, you feel the pleasure, then you take a deep breath, and then you move your fingers as if you could drag that pleasure to another spot that may have tension or pain. It's like you're running a highway between the two so that the pleasure can start to alleviate energetically that place that you've got extra tension or you know, stuck blocks. Now one of the things I really loved about the interview was talking about people who have a hard time reaching climax men in particular. And this keeping pressure and massage to the prostate gland to help coax that ejaculation into fruition. And you know, when I typically work with people who have just, it's like they just get stuck on the arousal scale. They can't get to 10, if that were ejaculation, they get stuck at around four or five and, um you know the two things that I've done to address that is shifting and reteaching how to feel pleasure with different strokes and different types of friction. Because typically people are only able to ejaculate because they use the same type of pressure, the same type of friction. Usually their partner's body can't compete with the friction that gets them off because they're typically using their hand. It's usually not hard enough or fast enough and they get kind of stuck. And so it's a challenge to have the discipline to actually rewire your system to enjoy a feather like touch, to enjoy a much slower pace. And it's worth the practice and, and the discovery to train yourself to like those things. And then that might lead you to an ejaculation. Um, and so of course, G-Spot massage, prostate massages can be in combination of all those things, but really feeling more confident about bridging the two of them. That that prostate gland is really the ejaculation gland. Um, I loved the kind of phrasing it, put it whole, it brought the box bigger in my mind.

Willow

Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, it was such a great interview. I'm so excited for more of his, um, for more of his, you know, amazing devices to come online.

Leah

Well, I'm so,

Willow

check out the discount code.

Leah

yeah, but you know what? I went to his website and I think it says 35% off the product line right now. So yeah, check out the website. The link is in the show notes. Yeah, I mean, that's incredible.

Willow

in me. That's like,

Leah

That's like getting a hundred dollars off the products, 55% because they're not inexpensive. I mean, a lot of these types of, uh, sex toys and medical grade toys that we've interfaced with are in the 200 and beyond range. I don't think kids are that expensive, but I did see like $235, $195, that kind of thing. So that's a big deal.

Willow

the deal.

Leah

We have received other sex toys that are bendable. You know, I think one of the things that has made his so successful is that they're bendable so they can be like fingers. So you can aim at the prostate gland and you can aim at the, um female G-spot, and you can kind of adjust the right angle because it's very malleable. And I'm curious, have you played with any of those? I always get a little stuck with like, okay, getting it the right shape and then hooking that into the body. Like can you bend it when you're, when it's already in your body?

Willow

Yeah, well it's, it's not an actual finger, so, um, I have not played with them inside of my own body. I've only played with them in Susan Bratton's living room, so with a bunch of other experts. So we were having a great time playing bending. But yeah, we, we didn't get to, to go inside, but soon we will. 'cause he is sending us some samples.

Leah

Yeah.

Willow

to report back to y'all once we've had some playtime.

Leah

And since Susan Bratton has come up a couple times in the episode, I will link her episode with us, which was very entertaining. She's so vivacious and fun. Um, you'll learn a lot from her. Uh, check it out.

Willow

Yeah.

Leah

Okay, love, love, love.

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